A few days ago, browsing through my LinkedIn feeds brought me to this article: “That Crab Mentality”
“It was a year or so when I first moved here that I heard people talk about Crab Mentality. I assumed it was a food dish, but as it happens it is something that is in the Philippines genes, and it is not that pleasant.
“I suppose it comes down to JEALOUSY!” - John Grant
It reminded me, again, about this important thing I learned from “How to Win Friends and Influence People” about ten years ago:
“The purest joy is the malicious joy we take in the misfortunes of those we have envied”
“The purest joy is the joy we take on other people’s troubles”
That is a very bad attitude!
I felt uneasy when I first read those words. I’m not sure why.
Maybe because I was able to see myself becoming like that? I’m not sure. Maybe not. I was not raised by my parents to become like that.
Maybe because I saw others that are being like that? And reading those words made me understand the “why”; which means I have some somewhat painful decisions to make? Maybe!
Can’t we just be happy when others succeed? We can make these successful people our friends and ask them how they became successful. We might be able to copy their methods towards success and become successful ourselves someday!
We should do something to remove that bad attitude from our genes.
And, by the way, that book was not written for Filipinos. It was written for everybody. So maybe this bad “Crab Mentality” attitude is not a “Filipino-only” problem. Maybe it is everybody’s problem!?
I even heard a preacher, about ten years ago, recommend it for all Christians to read!
So, go, buy it for yourself; for your own good and for the good of the world!
There is another example related to this “crab mentality” thing which I found last month in my old emails. It is from John Sonmez. The title is “Was I too mean?”
This is an excerpt of that email (I’m still asking for permission to post the whole email )